We got our Injunction- Child Abuse, Order of Protection against the man known as Jack Ass, effective for the next 2 years. YAY!!!!!! This is most excellent and wonderful!
It was the strangest experience I have ever had in court. The judge we had could only be described as volatile and at one point threw her glasses across her desk as she yelled at all of us. Seriously! She did! We went in to court and she was reading off the complaint and talking to herself about how she just got the papers, we should have a Guardian ad Litem assigned, she shouldn't have to deal with this but since we were there, she would ask Jack if he would agree to the conditions. Here are the conditions:
- avoid the child's residence and any premises temporarily occupied by the child
- The respondent to avoid contacting or causing any person other than a party's attorney to contact the child unless child consents in writing and the court agrees the contact is in the best interest of the child. Contact includes contact at child's home, work, school, public places, in person, by phone, in writing, by electronic communication or device, or in any other manner. Contact also means knowingly touching, meeting, communicating or being in visual or audio contact with the child.
I think she threw a temper tantrum herself when Jack asked her if he could still drive his girlfriends children to the same school and she scornfully derided him with "What part of "no contact" do you not understand? Figure it out"!
Amongst all the yelling and nastiness, she let us know that Jack can stay living where he is. We tried to ask a few questions like, how will that work out with him coming and going and such. Jack piped up that he always wears a disguise because he puts on a hat and sunglasses. My eyes rolled violently back in my head before the judge started yelling at us all again. She pointed out that she cannot even control where a sex offender lives, let alone something like this.
Jack agreed to the terms of the order. It was delightful to me to hear that he felt "blindsided" by being served with the order because he thought he and The Husband "had planned to meet again and keep working things out". The Husband jumped in and reminded him he said he would stay away from Genea and that very next day was waiting at the school bus stop, unavoidably visible. Well that pissed off the judge even more that they were talking to each other, and she blew up again, hollering something about "it's not Judge Judy in here", LOL!
I think I saw this, the Order of Protection, as a final step. Like, we would get the order and he would be gone. We would be stuck with The Skank but I could take her on easily enough. It's disappointing that being granted this seems to be a step in the middle of a process that is going to continue. Now, whenever Genea see's Jack we have to call the police and report that he is in violation of a restraining order by being in visual contact with her. We live in a small town and our police are extremely impressed with their importance around here despite our lack of crime to investigate. But I still have to imagine that they have better things to do than schlup over to my house a few times a day over a man walking to his truck from the door of a home. I am not happy to require officer intervention every time. It makes me very squeamish to think that The Skank's 2 children are going to be scared with police at their home every other day. I have to protect my children and what she does with her's are her mistakes to make. I know that she and Jack are the adults making the wrong decisions and since those selfish decisions directly hurt my children I have to put my children first in the situation. I know that we were here first and we have done nothing wrong. I still am apprehensive about it all.
As I sit, typing this all out, it is occurring to me that this is probably a pretty big 'achievement'. That we probably pulled off something quite rare, come to think of it.
So, maybe they will move. It will be an enormous hassle to try to live in a place where you cannot be seen. But then, logic seems to be alarmingly absent from that side of the street.
Anyway, we won! HOO-wah!