tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post7530115066579022672..comments2023-11-03T10:44:07.581-05:00Comments on The Accidental Mommy: Holidays and the disrupted adoptionUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-48593236701687621162008-12-31T08:56:00.000-06:002008-12-31T08:56:00.000-06:00Thanks you guys! I usually think of a post and rat...Thanks you guys! I usually think of a post and rattle some ideas in my brain first, but this time it all just flowed out since it was briefly quiet in my house. <BR/>No one knows where Genea got the idea her old parents were on a plane. The mom used to travel for work sometimes, so that is all anyone could think of. I saw her one time role playing with Teena their leaving and saying goodbye to her to get on a plane. It must be the only explanation she could come up with in her little kid brain. I have no idea what they told her actually, now that I think about it, it could have come from the first parents.The Accidental Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00409271721074309249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-59996851837860879102008-12-31T02:34:00.000-06:002008-12-31T02:34:00.000-06:00Gosh i feel your pain when i read your writing. th...Gosh i feel your pain when i read your writing. thanks for sharing this with us. <BR/>It must be so hard to not have the answers to things, but i guess you just have to be honest with her later when she asks, we can not always know why people do the things they do.<BR/>As a side line, how did it come about that she thought her disrupted mum and dad were in an airplane? just wonderingPaula Perryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16631062531121247914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-18096129973085573912008-12-30T23:18:00.000-06:002008-12-30T23:18:00.000-06:00Hey Essie. Great post. I wonder this with my kids ...Hey Essie. Great post. I wonder this with my kids too. With Toby, we are about to make contact with his aunt, who disrupted his adoption yet kept his sister...and I just wonder so many things...Torinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00992090842674056507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-73265632595700527672008-12-30T22:52:00.000-06:002008-12-30T22:52:00.000-06:00Well written! 3 of my 4 children come from a situa...Well written! 3 of my 4 children come from a situation of disruption so I have thought often of all of the "mothers" and what they must be feeling at holidays, birthdays, everything. There is such a fine line between information that "belongs" to all involved, but I tend to play sole advocate for my child. While I respect the feelings of the adults, this is my child's story and all the parts become bricks of the life they must lead. Not excuses, just parts of the whole. <BR/><BR/>I admire your techniques for handling the notes and gifts from former family. You all deserve to grow your family tree with out having to keep track of the branches from the other. <BR/><BR/>I will now step down from this box. LOL!<BR/><BR/>Peace,<BR/>:)De:)Dehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02125871958221599655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-91847312297982517922008-12-30T13:51:00.000-06:002008-12-30T13:51:00.000-06:00From my perspective as Genea's mom, I see her sadn...From my perspective as Genea's mom, I see her sadness every day. I see the results of orphanage care in her, and the results of a failed adoption in her. She struggles every single day just barely hanging on sometimes. The chaotic care has annihilated the child she would have been. Who she will become will have to wait. It is as possible that she will be a better person for it, as it is she will become a damaged person.<BR/><BR/>This speaks volumes Essie. Trying to hold back the tears... had no idea it was going to be a weepy day....Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16146320008307628429noreply@blogger.com