tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post4777610027987119334..comments2023-11-03T10:44:07.581-05:00Comments on The Accidental Mommy: Now featuring theft!Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-29745097932997761972015-04-28T08:53:51.955-05:002015-04-28T08:53:51.955-05:00oh geez! One earring? ARGH!
I like the sewing poc...oh geez! One earring? ARGH! <br />I like the sewing pockets, lol, I worked with a mom once who cut holes in all her kids pockets so anything stolen would come back out. <br />Yeah its maddening when they lie about it too!!!!!The Accidental Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00409271721074309249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-71833607420869663562015-04-24T07:46:08.093-05:002015-04-24T07:46:08.093-05:00We are still dealing with this. He has stolen from...We are still dealing with this. He has stolen from school, out of his teacher's desk, from other kids, he stole one of every pair of earrings of mine leaving me with no single matching pair (I should start a new trend…) he stole a little girls prescription glasses and we never found out who they belongs to, he steals anything and everything. I have resorted to sewing all of his pockets shut on his clothes and giving him a clear bag to use as a backpack. He just steals somewhere else instead of school. It has gotten better, but last week he stole another child's favorite pen. When confronted with the evidence he lies and lies and lies. No one thing has worked for us. We make him apologize, return the items, work off the restitution, give the person something he cares about, etc act etc. The only thing I haven't tried is stringing him up by his toes (kidding). I really liked earrings……..Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618979198068677569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-17316201653348240532015-04-14T07:23:11.121-05:002015-04-14T07:23:11.121-05:00I have this dream of teaching in a little farm-sch...I have this dream of teaching in a little farm-school, catering specifically to children with trauma backgrounds. Let's find an investor! And a little farm.katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01981791168464858869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-37571337087172909612015-04-11T15:54:11.159-05:002015-04-11T15:54:11.159-05:00I think you are right, that it's based in fear...I think you are right, that it's based in fear, because it all started about a month before middle school. Whether it's persisted because of a primal instinct thing, I don't know. I just want my chocolate back, lol! I suspect it is her regressing to a super bad habit to connect with me. Like all attention is good, whether its good or not. <br />I don't' think I could sleep with all that in my bed! 2 cats and a husband is more than I want in there as it is.The Accidental Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00409271721074309249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-91486196748112527362015-04-10T20:31:43.822-05:002015-04-10T20:31:43.822-05:00Oh, boy..... She didn't realize YOU had trigg...Oh, boy..... She didn't realize YOU had triggers, too! <br /><br />I had some quite the spate of thievery around here for a while. Ended up wearing my money and my charge card in a bag around my neck....I remember that was the same time that I'd have to sleep with the router. I looked like quite the lunatic climbing into bed at night.<br /><br />I don't quite recall what "worked". Maybe the theft wasn't as lacking in conscious motive as you are experiencing. But the safer my culprit felt, the less theft seemed to take place....and now I actually can keep a few dollars in my wallet overnight.<br /><br />I have the feeling that she has no idea whatsoever why she does it; or why it is mostly you. I just bet it is all stemming from fear based on things that happened pre-conscious memory. Being probed on WHY just forces her to make stuff up. It is possible that she stumbled on a true insight, clarified above....but, it could also be that she somehow learned she she has to "take" from the mother figure because the mother figure doesn't give everything that her baby needs.....she's still feeling a "deficit" somehow. That she would focus on something like chocolate that (as you so aptly described) gives solace, pleasure and comfort....well, that's interesting. Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12623179886908222942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-12006033349395076132015-04-10T13:44:46.811-05:002015-04-10T13:44:46.811-05:00Yeah. Its all very opposite of the usual!Yeah. Its all very opposite of the usual!The Accidental Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00409271721074309249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-61122595763625822402015-04-10T10:36:35.345-05:002015-04-10T10:36:35.345-05:00I hear you about the suck-age of being the focus o...I hear you about the suck-age of being the focus of negative attention getting. But she actually told you why you are the focus, because "Mama loves me the most". You are her safe person and the one she can do anything to because she is sure you will always love her no matter what. <br />Congratulations. I think. <br />Hang in there. :-) Casa Bicicletahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01877164617383384452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-79155178448183109272015-04-09T23:08:39.346-05:002015-04-09T23:08:39.346-05:00thanks! I'll take it!thanks! I'll take it!The Accidental Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00409271721074309249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-45104014553512078052015-04-09T17:58:07.920-05:002015-04-09T17:58:07.920-05:00No advice. Just offering tea and sympathy.No advice. Just offering tea and sympathy.katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01981791168464858869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-45594613525835127862015-04-09T17:04:30.911-05:002015-04-09T17:04:30.911-05:00Well, it didn't start as restraint, lol! The t...Well, it didn't start as restraint, lol! The thing is, I've been sort of surprised that she didn't start it ages ago. But being the new focus of her, um, "attentions" really sucks!The Accidental Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00409271721074309249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-69553597823904025592015-04-09T08:26:05.218-05:002015-04-09T08:26:05.218-05:00Holy cow girlie, you have your hands full. I admir...Holy cow girlie, you have your hands full. I admire your restraint, I really do. Sounds like you have a solution ---well, maybe not a solution but a usable working model--- in place. Good luck and keep at it. :-)Casa Bicicletahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01877164617383384452noreply@blogger.com