tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post2323364848172202782..comments2023-11-03T10:44:07.581-05:00Comments on The Accidental Mommy: Try it, you might like it!Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-90632404982457516342009-04-16T02:00:00.000-05:002009-04-16T02:00:00.000-05:00I didn't know that term either. But I actually st...I didn't know that term either. But I actually started using it with my husband, "Honey, if you yell at me about it, I know it will calm you down - yell some more!" Unfortunately it only worked half the time, the other half, he'd say, "I damn well will!!!" and carry on.<br /><br />With Nastya's wango-tango visits (I actually introduced HER to that scientific term; she liked it) you have to catch the wave. At a certain point "prescribing the problem might work". At a slightly earlier stage imitating her might stop her in her tracks and make her laugh. (Boy, was it a great day when my intuition told me to try that one!) There's also a certain point at which ignoring her helps, or on a rare day, distraction or surprise. i.e. Said to child rolling on the living room floor yelling loudly "You HATE ME!" "Hey, Hon, I'm going to Sears, want to come?" She can either roll around unheard, or come with and possibly get something out of it. She's no fool.<br /><br />Empathy is another fun one. As she is looking for something to kick or throw. "Here, Nastya, why don't you tear this up; I think that might make you feel better." Just confuses the heck out of her. She might make one tear and then you can tell she feels really stupid. Especially with me sitting there, giving her 150% of my attention: "Come on, Nastya, it will feel good - rip it up - come on!"Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12623179886908222942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-9530780127184469812009-04-15T13:40:00.000-05:002009-04-15T13:40:00.000-05:00ooooooh, telling my urinator to have a great pee i...ooooooh, telling my urinator to have a great pee is a fabulous idea!!! But do I have the guts, the cajones, the staying power for that? <br />Hmmm.The Accidental Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00409271721074309249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-77234784333469665852009-04-14T19:16:00.000-05:002009-04-14T19:16:00.000-05:00I love prescribing the problem. It annoys the hel...I love prescribing the problem. It annoys the hell out of them. Although as I look up and see Tubaville, I wonder if telling the urinator to pee all over the house would be something I could commit to:)<br />Anyway, I found blogging to be better than therapy, you all have actually lived it, and therapists can only read about it. And you all know what it's like to sit back and say "$&*^%, what did I sign up for?" and not judge those of us who have the guts to admit it. <br />Anyway, love this!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-73503846942186339102009-04-14T14:31:00.000-05:002009-04-14T14:31:00.000-05:00Ooh, "prescribing the problem". I had no idea it h...Ooh, "prescribing the problem". I had no idea it had such a fancy name. We do that all the time. Works wonders with kids who have ODD. Me's gots to think about the rage resolution. We hardly ever "contained" our "wee" one unless she was trying to hurt us. But what is it that we did? I seem to have blocked it out of my memory. Self preservation I guess. Or maybe PTSD.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-34531765463910053632009-04-14T14:21:00.000-05:002009-04-14T14:21:00.000-05:00Hey Lisa, I resemble that remark!Hey Lisa, I resemble that remark!Sherihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16598822471867683429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484148947744118811.post-49569043791784760662009-04-14T14:15:00.000-05:002009-04-14T14:15:00.000-05:00Oh yeah.....try all the things you think won't wor...Oh yeah.....try all the things you think won't work. It certainly keeps me on my toes. Every. day.<br /><br />Blogging keeps me sane and connected with other crazy folks. <br /><br />Plus I never know what I'm doing....Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16146320008307628429noreply@blogger.com